22 July, 2012
Why Bougie is Boring.
According to Urban Dictionary.com, bougie is defined as an “Adjective meaning extravagant, often to the point of snobbery. Usually used in relation to the conspicuous consumption of the urban upper-middle class. Dervived from "bourgeoisie"”. According to me, bougie is best defined as boring, usually lacking substantive value. My opinion is probably biased, so please take my words with a tiny grain of salt. I am probably bitter from growing up in a working-class environment surrounded by upper-class peers who never actually realize how good they have it. Debutante balls, Jack & Jill meet ups and high society shindigs are the norm to these types, and of course they wouldn’t have it any other way.
The more I mature, the more I come to realize that this gap (between my bougie friends and I) only widens instead of narrows, and our differences speak louder than our similarities once did. When I was working at age 15, they were going on vacations to the Bahamas and enjoying the upper-class fruits of their parents’ labor. It’s no wonder that we are now two completely different worlds apart, wondering how and why we ever got along without barely noticing our obvious differences. In my bitter resentment for these bougie-types (the ones that I love and also dislike), I’ve decided to come up with a brief list, a manifesto of sorts—for why I personally think BOUGIE IS BORING:
1. The bougie sort tends to be judgmental and condescending towards others based on superficial grounds, (i.e. the type of car one drives, clothes one wears). All superficial indications of where one stands on the latter of social stratification.
· Yes, we are all guilty at one time or another of judging someone, but the main difference for the bougie folks is that they not only use their judgments to look down on people, but rather to raise themselves on a higher pedestal—so tacky.
2. The bougie individual usually socializes in circles that encompass people of their own socioeconomic status, engaging mainly with people who they’ve met through academia (usually top tier colleges and universities) or through social and family connections.
· The exception to this rule would be the rare case of the bougie having an “artsy friend” or a “cool gay friend”, these are usually relationships of convenience that one looks to as adding some sort of “spice” to their own lives or to avert any thoughts that the bougie individual merely sticks to their own sort.
· While it is natural to gravitate to like-minded individuals and to feel more comfortable with people who are like ourselves, the main difference between the bougie individual is that they choose, willingly and unabashedly to stick to their own in all and any situations—without privilege they would never have a choice.
3. These aforementioned characteristics bring me to the third point—lack of variety mixed with narrow-minded judgments often leaves the bougie individual with limited conversation and little interests other than, A.)Subjects which he or she has a wealth of knowledge and are sure to never be upstaged, and B.) Conversations that are futile and often lack any substantive or moral value (think pop music and mainstream media).
· The bougie individual cannot stand being made to look ignorant on any topic or subject, and also tends to keep simple conversations so as to not make any indications of their own judgments and to avert any judgment away from themselves. This keeps them in the clear and on track to what all bougie people crave and yearn for—admiration and respect from their seemingly lower-class counterpoints. I sometimes wonder if they came up with the term “Politically Correct”….hmmmmm.
To be completely honest, I do think that everyone has a little bit of bougie in them to some degree. So glad I’ve finally gotten that bougie sh*t off my chest!